Law of Attraction: Do You Know About The Power Of Flow?

Flow is the quality of ease that can be integrated into a life to give it the look and feel of almost effortless achievement. It's not as elusive as it may seem. We all know people who go through life attracting opportunity after opportunity; or those who have a knack for being at the right place at the right time to connect with the right people.

These people seem unusually lucky; life seems to favor them but in reality they have turned synchronicity and attraction into a habit where most people experience them in random fashion. Our culture has been programmed to link struggle with valor and so the tendency is to unconsciously choose struggle over ease.

This struggle mentality validates the assumptions that life is hard and you have to work hard to get make ends meet or to get ahead. It places the under-achiever in declivity while setting the high performance achiever up for burnout. This struggle mentality is a sickness that is perpetuated by both the unsuccessful and the successful. There is a high price attached to success that is adrenaline-based; there is this unending pressure to go faster, work harder, jump higher, sleep less, and do more. This model of success is very unattractive, very expensive, and is simply a more glamorous form of failure.
The high performance achiever may be relentless at first, but eventually as the burn intensifies, they begin to ask themselves, "Is this all there is?" There is a better way that leads to success that can be achieved and sustained without amputating other important aspects of yourself and your life.
Steven Lane Taylor, author of the book Row, Row, Row Your Boat; A Guide for Living Life in the Divine Flow", suggests that we can intentionally tap into the flow of life's benevolent energy. When we do, we begin to move gently toward our goals instead of racing past them like an Olympic runner being chased by a herd of frightened elephants. The high performance achiever is often the one who is most at risk in becoming trapped in the work harder, faster, longer paradigm.

In Steven's book, he uses the song "Row, Row, Row Your Boat" to provide a simple model for unlocking the mystery of flow.

Exercises - Relationships

Exercise One

Aim

The aim of this exercise is to develop a mechanism to ease tensions between you and your partner. In this exercise, you will, in consultation with your spouse or lover, develop a "Pattern Interrupt," which will be designed to ease out tensions between you and your partner, whenever such a situation arises.

Procedure

Discuss with your partner and find a gesture that could be made or a phrase that could be said when things get really heated up. Make sure that this is really bizarre and humorous, so that no matter how serious a confrontation becomes, it could ease out the tensions. For instance, you could decide on something like holding your nose and saying something funny. The point is to, for a moment, divert the attention of your partner away from the confrontation, and into something light and humorous. Use such pattern for a few times to reinforce it.

Exercise Two

Aim

This self hypnosis exercise is designed to assist you in attracting the right person to you.

Procedure

Allow fifteen to thirty minutes to do this exercise. You may put on some quite music in the background. Do this once a day for the next five days. Either:

1. Guide yourself through the exercise.
2. Record it and then use the recorded cassette.
3. Ask a friend with a good voice to record it.
4. Write to the institute for a copy of a similar tape. (In the meantime, use one of the above three options.) Remember to mention the unit and exercise number.

The "Attract Love" Programming

"Set yourself in the body position of your choice. Close your eyes, roll your eyeballs upwards and take three deep breaths, and begin to relax. Just focus on relaxing every muscle in your body from the top of your head to the tips of your toes. Just begin to relax. And begin to notice how very comfortable your body is beginning to feel. You are supported so you can just let go and relax. Now, for a moment notice your slow, calm, deep breathing. Inhale and exhale. Inhale and exhale. And, every time you exhale, you become even more relaxed and at ease.

To deepen your relaxation, count backwards from twenty to one, each time visualizing the number if desired.

"Twenty . . . . Nineteen . . . Eighteen . . . Seventeen . .

Sixteen . . . . Fifteen . . . . Fourteen . . . Thirteen . . .

Twelve . . . . Eleven . . . . Ten . . . . . . Nine . . . . .

Eight . . . . . Seven . . . . . Six . . . . . . Five . . . . .

Four . . . . . Three . . . . . Two . . . . . . One . . . . . "

[ Pause for a moment]

"Once again notice your slow and regular breathing. Inhale and exhale. Now in your mind, repeat after me the following words which will be imprinted into your subconscious and assist you in attracting the right person to you.

I am building into my reality the type of man/woman I desire.

[Insert "Relationship Desire" statement]

[Insert "Relationship Contribution" statement]

I know he/she wants me, and I want him/her. I have wonderful gifts to offer to him/her. I am honest, sincere, loving and kind. I have a strong will, a joyous heart, a healthy body and a vibrant mind to share with him/her. He/she offers me the same. It is mutual. I give and I receive. Divine intelligence knows where this man/woman is, and the deeper wisdom of my subconscious mind is now bringing both of us together, and we instantly recognize each other."

[Pause for a moment]

"Now, I will provide you with some very powerful suggestions, which will be accepted by your subconscious mind and acted upon. At this relaxed level, your subconscious is open and receptive to positive suggestions. So relax and allow these words to flow into your subconscious mind. They will stay there and work from there for you. (Each repeated 2 times)

You express yourself freely and you experience acceptance from the man/woman you desire.

You are very attractive to men/women.

You are creating the ideal relationship for yourself because you are willing to love and be loved.

All the qualities you possess are attractive to men/women you desire. Your inner strength and magnetism shine forth in all that you do sending out all the right vibrations to attract a satisfying relationship for you.

All that you desire and deserve, you can attain through the inner strength that is empowering you now.

It is your birth right to enjoy life completely and share all the joys life has to offer with someone you love and someone who loves you.

You radiate the positive energies to which men/women are attracted to.

You are perfect, your body is perfect, your mind is perfect.

You use mind reprogramming techniques daily.

These powerful affirmations have been communicated to every level of your body and mind. You are open to these communications, which you will accept and act upon. They are powerful and they help you enhance your energy and enthusiasm to unimaginable levels."

[Pause for a moment]

"Now, I am going to count from 1 to 3, and at the count of 3 you will open your eyes, feeling, light, refreshed, revitalized, energetic, wonderful, happy and cheerful, feeling better than before. Now, 1, coming out slowly. 2, yes, coming out now. 3, Open your eyes feeling light refreshed and revitalized, happy and cheerful, feeling much better than before."

Exercise Three

Aim

This self hypnosis exercise is designed to assist you in revitalizing your love life.

Procedure

Allow fifteen to thirty minutes to do this exercise. You may put on some quite music in the background. Do this once a day for the next five days. Either:

1. Guide yourself through the exercise.
2. Record it and then use the recorded cassette.
3. Ask a friend with a good voice to record it.
4. Write to the institute for a copy of a similar tape. (In the meantime, use one of the above three options.) Remember to mention the unit and exercise number.

The "Revitalize your Relationship" Programming

"Set yourself in the body position of your choice. Close your eyes, roll your eyeballs upwards and take three deep breaths, and begin to relax. Just focus on relaxing every muscle in your body from the top of your head to the tips of your toes. Just begin to relax. And begin to notice how very comfortable your body is beginning to feel. You are supported so you can just let go and relax. Now, for a moment notice your slow, calm, deep breathing. Inhale and exhale. Inhale and exhale. And, every time you exhale, you become even more relaxed and at ease.

To deepen your relaxation, count backwards from twenty to one, each time visualizing the number if desired.

"Twenty . . . . Nineteen . . . Eighteen . . . Seventeen . .

Sixteen . . . . Fifteen . . . . Fourteen . . . Thirteen . . .

Twelve . . . . Eleven . . . . Ten . . . . . . Nine . . . . .

Eight . . . . . Seven . . . . . Six . . . . . . Five . . . . .

Four . . . . . Three . . . . . Two . . . . . . One . . . . . "

[ Pause for a moment]

"Now, I will provide you with some very powerful suggestions, which will be accepted by your subconscious mind and acted upon. At this relaxed level, your subconscious is open and receptive to positive suggestions. So relax and allow these words to flow into your subconscious mind. They will stay there and work from there for you. (Each repeated 2 times)

You are ready to give and receive unconditional love with total commitment.

You are a unique and totally lovable person and deserve all the gifts of a wonderful, loving relationship.

You embrace the paradox of relationship - pain and joy. You learn from both of them.

Your partner supports your individuality and independence, and together you balance being together and being apart.

Relationships work when love and the willingness to grow are present. You create a loving, growing and totally successful relationship.

You express yourself freely and experience acceptance from your partner.

The struggles of life strengthen the basis of your relationship.

Your love is the source of your inspiration to succeed in life.

You respect your partners values and beliefs and receive the same.

You use mind reprogramming techniques daily.

These powerful affirmations have been communicated to every level of your body and mind. You are open to these communications, which you will accept and act upon. They are powerful and they help you enhance your energy and enthusiasm to unimaginable levels."

[Pause for a moment]

"Now, I am going to count from 1 to 3, and at the count of 3 you will open your eyes, feeling, light, refreshed, revitalized, energetic, wonderful, happy and cheerful, feeling better than before. Now, 1, coming out slowly. 2, yes, coming out now. 3, Open your eyes feeling light refreshed and revitalized, happy and cheerful, feeling much better than before."

Principles for Maintaining a Successful Relationship

Why is it that so many relationships, which start off with such energy and enthusiasm, seem to lose their glitter just a few weeks down the road. Studies have shown that there are five basic principles which govern the quality of a relationship in the long run:

Principle #1:

Knowledge of the other person’s preferences

How does your husband or wife like to be told that you love him or her? How would you like to be told that your lover or spouse loves you. Would you like to touched in a certain way, or would you like to be embraced in a certain way, or would you like love to be expressed in words, or would you like to be looked in the eyes in a certain way? Love is a very delicate affair, and the surest way of sabotaging your relationship is to be aloof of the others person’s preferences.

Over the months and years, most people realize, what is it that makes their lover express love. But, some don’t and this can be fatal for the relationship. If you think you haven’t yet discovered your partner’s preferences, this is the first thing you should do. Often called the "Love Strategy," you must make a conscious effort to discover it, and meet it on a consistent basis.

Principle #2:

Relationship is a place to give, not take

Often, people approach a relationship as a place to solve their problems. While a relationship could definitely solve problems, this approach tends to disempower both the people involved in it. If you have not been cuddled or pampered as a child, and use a relationship as a place to receive such treatment, you are disempowering yourself of your ability to take any initiative, because you are constantly looking for your partner to treat you in a certain way.

Instead, what one should do in such a case is, concentrate on giving something into the relationship. Such contribution of love and affection will automatically elicit the kind of treatment you desire.

Principle #3:

Learn to communicate your problems with your partner

Dr. Barbara DeAngelis, in her best selling book, "How to Make Love All the Time," identifies four stages in a relationship that can kill it. And, by identifying it, one can immediately intervene and eliminate the problems before they become unmanageably large.

Phase 1: Resistance

This is the first phase of challenges in a relationship. It occurs when you take exception of something your partner said or did which you didn’t like. Maybe, it was a joke which you didn’t find very tasteful, or a statement that offended you, or something else which you wished hadn’t happened. Of course, resistance is bound to happen in a relationship between two human beings, but the secret is to talk it over, and settle it before it reaches the second phase.

Phase 2: Resentment

Resistance, if not handled properly, can lead to resentment. Now, your irritation with your partner grows into anger, and a communication barrier is erected between you and him/her. In this phase, you begin to avoid your partner, and the intimacy that you both enjoyed is virtually over.

Phase 3: Rejection

If resistance is not eased, or if you and your partner don’t talk the matter over, you may move into the third phase: rejection. This is the beginning of the physical separation from your partner. Coupled with emotional separation, in this phase, you begin to find everything about your partner annoying and irritating.

Phase 4: Repression

This is the most dangerous phase of the demise of your relationship. In this phase, you stop communicating with your partner altogether. There is an emotional numbness between the two of you. Slowly, you just become a room-mate of your partner, not concerned of what he or she is doing or feeling.

So, what’s the way to avoid this dangerous trap? Dr. DeAngelis says, it’s simple: Talk. Talking one’s problems, one’s concerns and one’s likes and dislikes is the only way to ensure smooth sailing. Adequate and meaningful communication is an essential component of any relationship.

Principle #4:

Never threaten your relationship

A lot of couples have the habit of saying things like, "You do that, and I am leaving you." This can be disastrous, because, although most of the time such a statement is not supposed to be taken very seriously, but what if one day, your spouse said, "Go ahead and leave. I’ll do things my way." If such a case arises, one’s ego may often force him or her to follow up on their threat (of leaving), and that is the end of the relationship. See, the point is that no matter what situation arises, there is no justification for threatening your relationship if you want it to last a lifetime.

Principle #5:

Strive to constantly add glitter to your relationship

Just like any other emotion, a relationship also needs to be constantly propped up. You need to constantly excite your partner, and ignite his or her desire for you. One way to reinforce your feelings of connection and renew your feelings of intimacy and attraction, is to constantly ask questions that would make your partner express love; something like, "How did I get so lucky to have you in my life?" Try to surprise each other. Do outrageous things, like arranging an outing at a place where your partner would have never even imagined. Express love in an out-of-the-way manner, and have fun doing it.

Discovering your ideal soul mate

Everybody needs to love and be loved by someone. Any degree of success in life is worthless if one doesn’t have somebody to share it with. We were all created to love and be loved. The capability of giving and receiving unconditional love was imbued from birth, but somehow over the years, as we grew older, we became entangled in all sorts of emotional and spiritual complications, which might have made us feel as if we are incapable for this. It is now time to let go of the past, and all its burdens - free ourselves of the fear based emotions that tie us down.

In this chapter, we will discuss a step-by-step process for discovering and "creating" that someone special. The trouble is that most of us want to have somebody to love but we are not very clear in our intent. (Of course, this may not be necessary for people who already have their soul mate.)

First, and foremost, decide what is it that you want in a relationship. Be as specific as you can. In the space below, write down the physical, mental, spiritual, and other qualities you would like to have in your partner.

• Physical qualities you desire in your partner:
• Mental qualities you desire in your partner:
• Spiritual qualities you desire in your partner:
• Other qualities you desire in your partner:

Now, put these qualities in a single sentence. Make sure this sentence is short, concise and to the point. We will call it your "Relationship Desire Statement." An example of this statement could be: "The man/woman I now attract into my life for a husband/wife/lover is strong, loving, honest, faithful, sincere, happy and prosperous." No go ahead, and fill in the spaces:

The _________ (man/woman) I now attract into my life for a _____________

(husband/wife/lover) is
____________________________________________________

____________________________________________________

____________________________________________________

Apart from knowing what you want out of a relationship, you must also ascertain all the qualities you have which would contribute to the success of your relationship.

What you can contribute to a successful relationship:

Now, put the above also in the form of a brief statement. We will refer to this as our "Relationship Contribution Statement."

The ________ (man/woman) I now attract into my life finds love and happiness with me because I am

_________________________________________

We will use the Relationship Desire & Relationship Contribution statements in the "Attracting Love" self hypnosis exercise, which follow later."

The Law of Attraction is the Most Powerful Force in the Universe

What is the Law of Attraction?

It is the most powerful force in the Universe and means simply that you attract what you think about - whether you want it or not. 

When I first learned of the Law of Attraction, I knew I had found everything I had been seeking - my direct connection to God, Spirit, the Universe. 

This Universal Law states that all forms of matter and energy are attracted to that which is of a like vibration. The implications of this Law are vast, and the Law holds true for all known Universes. 

When our thoughts are in harmony with our highest desires, we are filled with joyand ecstasy. When we learn to set forth our thoughts consciously, we increasingly attract thought of a higher vibration and raise the level of thought at which we habitually vibrate. 

You will notice that people who speak most of health have it; people who speak most of illness have it; people who speak most of prosperity have it. That is the Law of Attraction in Action! 

Putting the Law of Attraction to work for you can be as simple as the following these three steps: 

1. Identify and be clear about what you want

2. Expect that the Universe/God/Spirit answers

3. Allow and be grateful AS IF you have already received what you want 

It really is as simple as that. You will get what you think about... so why not learn to think deliberately about what you do want?