Exercises - Spirituality

Exercise One

Aim

The purpose of this self hypnosis exercise is to help you find your mission, with the assistance from your subconscious mind. In this exercise, you will also, subconsciously imprint your mission in your mind.

Procedure

Allow fifteen to thirty minutes to do this exercise. You may put on some quite music in the background. Do this once a day for the next 5 days. Either:

1. Guide yourself through the exercise.
2. Record it and then use the recorded cassette.
3. Ask a friend with a good voice to record it.
4. Write to the institute for a copy of a similar tape. (In the meantime, use one of the above three options.) Remember to mention the unit and exercise number.

The "Pathway to the Mission" Programming

"Set yourself in the body position of your choice. Close your eyes, roll your eyeballs upwards and take three deep breaths, and begin to relax. Just focus on relaxing every muscle in your body from the top of your head to the tips of your toes. Just begin to relax. And begin to notice how very comfortable your body is beginning to feel. You are supported so you can just let go and relax. Now, for a moment notice your slow, calm, deep breathing. Inhale and exhale. Inhale and exhale. And, every time you exhale, you become even more relaxed and at ease.

To deepen your relaxation, count backwards from twenty to one, each time visualizing the number if desired.

"Twenty . . . . Nineteen . . . Eighteen . . . Seventeen . .

Sixteen . . . . Fifteen . . . . Fourteen . . . Thirteen . . .

Twelve . . . . Eleven . . . . Ten . . . . . . Nine . . . . .

Eight . . . . . Seven . . . . . Six . . . . . . Five . . . . .

Four . . . . . Three . . . . . Two . . . . . . One . . . . . "

[ Pause for a moment]

"Now, you are very relaxed, and are ready to communicate with your subconscious. You are open to all the perceptions that come into your mind. And at the count of three, you will get some impressions. They may be in the form of some words, or in the form of pictures. These impressions will provide you the key to the mission of your life. OK, one . . . two . . . and, three . . .

[Pause for a moment]

OK, now analyse the impressions. These impressions are a communication from your subconscious mind, which wants to tell you about your purpose, about your underlying principle in life. Now, put this principle in a short, concise sentence. Do this now at the count of three. OK, one . . . two . . . and, three . . .

[Pause for a moment]

Yes, this is your mission. This is your purpose in the universal game of life. You were provided with a bodily vehicle to serve this mission. Now, for the next one minute, I want you to concentrate on a symbol of your mission. It may be somebody’s face, or some written words, or any other visual reminder. For the next one minute, you will think only of this symbol. So, go ahead and concentrate on the symbol of your mission.

[Pause for one minute]

Ok, let go of that symbol. Your mission has been imprinted on your entire body and mind. From now on, you will act in accordance with your mission. All your actions will be directed towards fulfilling this mission."

[Pause for a moment]

"Now, I am going to count from 1 to 3, and at the count of 3 you will open your eyes, feeling, light, refreshed, revitalized, energetic, wonderful, happy and cheerful, feeling better than before. Now, 1, coming out slowly. 2, yes, coming out now. 3, Open your eyes feeling light refreshed and revitalized, happy and cheerful, feeling much better than before."

Exercise Two

Aim

The purpose of this self hypnosis exercise is to help you to seek the guidance of your higher self to solve a problem you face in your life, or for some other information that may benefit you in some way. For this exercise, you have to sit on a chair and table, with a note-pad and pen in hand. Before starting the exercise, write a question on the note book, and during the session, allow your subconscious to provide you the answer to your question. As you progress into the exercise, your subconscious will take over the control of the pen from you, and start writing by itself.

Procedure

Allow fifteen to thirty minutes to do this exercise. You may put on some quite music in the background. Do this once a day for the next 5 days. Either:

1. uide yourself through the exercise.
2. Record it and then use the recorded cassette.
3. Ask a friend with a good voice to record it.
4. Write to the institute for a copy of a similar tape. (In the meantime, use one of the above three options.) Remember to mention the unit and exercise number.

The "Automatic Writing" Programming

"Set yourself in the body position of your choice. Close your eyes, roll your eyeballs upwards and take three deep breaths, and begin to relax. Just focus on relaxing every muscle in your body from the top of your head to the tips of your toes. Just begin to relax. And begin to notice how very comfortable your body is beginning to feel. You are supported so you can just let go and relax. Now, for a moment notice your slow, calm, deep breathing. Inhale and exhale. Inhale and exhale. And, every time you exhale, you become even more relaxed and at ease.

To deepen your relaxation, count backwards from twenty to one, each time visualizing the number if desired.

"Twenty . . . . Nineteen . . . Eighteen . . . Seventeen . .

Sixteen . . . . Fifteen . . . . Fourteen . . . Thirteen . . .

Twelve . . . . Eleven . . . . Ten . . . . . . Nine . . . . .

Eight . . . . . Seven . . . . . Six . . . . . . Five . . . . .

Four . . . . . Three . . . . . Two . . . . . . One . . . . . "

[ Pause for a moment]

"Now, you are very relaxed, and are ready to communicate with your subconscious. You are open to all the perceptions that come into your mind. Your subconscious is a vast store house of knowledge and information, which you can access as you please. It will provide you with all the answers you desire. All you have to do is be open and accept the impressions as they come. And at the count of three, you will begin to get some impressions in the form of some words. These impressions will provide you the answer to your question. OK, one . . . two . . . and, three . . . Now, begin writing down the words on the pad, as they flow out from your sub-conscious mind.

[Allow appropriate time]

Ok, let go of these impressions. Remember that you can always return to do this exercise. Your subconscious mind will always be by your side, whenever you need any guidance."

[Pause for a moment]

"Now, I am going to count from 1 to 3, and at the count of 3 you will open your eyes, feeling, light, refreshed, revitalized, energetic, wonderful, happy and cheerful, feeling better than before. Now, 1, coming out slowly. 2, yes, coming out now. 3, Open your eyes feeling light refreshed and revitalized, happy and cheerful, feeling much better than before."

Getting your Inner Self to provide you the Answers

Till now, we have concentrated on feeding the subconscious to achieve success and peak performance in various spheres of our lives. It’s now time to get something out of our inner mind.

The subconscious mind is considered to be a storehouse of all the information about our lives, even information about our previous lives. At the same time, the subconscious can serve as the key to accessing our super-conscious mind, also called the inner or the higher mind - the source of all knowledge and power, and the connecting force among all humanity.

It is widely believed among metaphysics researchers that the super-conscious mind can be a true source of guidance and help, and getting it to speak for you may be the route to greater happiness, success, and freedom. This guidance may come in the form of impressions, or perceptions (under hypnosis), or in the form of encounters with your spiritual masters and spiritual guides. You may also practice, what is called "Automatic Writing," to get answers to confusing problems from your inner mind.

The following is an account of the experiences of some of the people who have experienced such phenomenon:

Maidie Moore, Garcia, USA:

"A few years ago, I lived in Chicago. One night, while walking home from the church, I heard footsteps behind me. They crunched lightly in the frozen snow and I thought it was another woman. As I approached an alley, an inner voice said loudly, "Girl, cross the street." I didn’t respond immediately. "Do it now, don’t look back! Hurry, go toward the lights." This time I followed the instructions. When I got to the drugstore across the street, I looked back to see a tall man in dark clothes with white gym shoes standing at the entrance to the alley.

I later learned that an hour after my experience with the inner voice, a woman was pulled into that alley, robbed, raped, and beaten. The victim remembered that her attacker was a tall man wearing white gym shoes."

Lori L. Dingman, Perry, USA:

"One day, while I was involved in my normal activities, an internal voice said, ‘Within the hearts of all men burns the flame of the Christ spirit." I thought that what very poetic. (I’m not a poet.) So, I got a pen and paper and wrote it down. No sooner had I written it down that my hand took off and started writing without any effort from my side. The words came so fast, I could barely keep up with the dictation (from my inner self.) Since then, I have taken to using a typewriter during my Automatic Writing sessions. It is the only way I can keep up. The following are some samples of the messages I’ve received:

Lori: "Where have I known my mother before?"

"You have known your mother in many lifetimes. The last time you were together, you were the mother and she was the daughter. Much of that relationship has carried over from a seventh century lifetime in Greece."

Lori: "What is the message for today?"

"Today, we wish to talk about the nature of man’s free will. Free will was given by the creator so that man would be able to express love to his fullest potential. This is a double-edged blade, however. As well as having free expression, man also has the ability to abuse it. When fear entered human consciousness, free will turned from a loving, joyful expression to one of ignorance and doubt. The expression of free will produced all the lower emotions. Man saw himself as separate from God and separate from all his brothers and sisters. This was the fall from grace, the figurative ‘eating of the forbidden fruit.’ Yes, it was a sad thing, but there was still hope, still time to return to the true self.

It saddens us greatly to see all that goes on every day on the beautiful jewel known as Earth. There is so much negativity that it looks to us like a dense black fog penetrating everything on the planet.

Now is the time for mankind’s awakening, however, and a few lights are beginning to penetrate the dense fog. This is why you must unite with others of like minds and hearts. Together, you can break up the negativity. Think of these things. Meditate on them, and unite as brothers and sisters of the light. Herald the New Age by remembering your true-self, your God-self. There is no separation from God. There never has been."

Everybody is very much capable of receiving and understanding such psychic perceptions, according to prominent psychic researcher, Dick Sutphen. Sutphen compares acquiring psychic capabilities to his learning to play tennis. He says, just as tennis, any person who is willing to spend some time and energy, and follow the principles, can learn to receive impressions from "the other side." Of course, there are some "naturals," who acquire the skill more rapidly than others, but everybody can reach his desired level of proficiency by consistent practice.

Before we actually do the exercises, let us first discuss some guidelines which are helpful in speeding up the process of successfully receiving psychic impressions.

1. Learn to let go of all fear based emotions, like anger, selfishness, jealousy greed, possessiveness, guilt, envy, anxiety, insecurity, inhibitions, blame, malice and resentment. As we let go of such feelings, we raise our level of awareness to the unlimited possibilities in our lives.


2. Learn to express unconditional love. This is the other side of letting go of fear and fear based emotions. As you become free of such negative emotions, you will learn to accept others without judgment, without prejudice, and without blame.


3. While explaining the analogy between learning Tennis, and acquiring psychic perceptions, Sutphen says that a few day into his practicing Tennis, he realized that he played best when he just let it happen. It was as if he had surrendered control to some inner force who was actually playing the game. Similarly, trying too hard is not the answer for developing psychic abilities. Let it happen. Gradually, as you become accustomed to the process, it will become more and more satisfying.


4. Don’t have any pre-session expectations about what you are going to experience, because having such expectations would make it difficult for you to accept your impressions. Be open and avoid the trap of "I won’t accept it unless it happens the way I expect it to."


5. In the beginning, you may feel that your mind is making up these impressions, or that these are just a fantasy. Learn to trust your perceptions even if you think you are making them up.


6. inally, depth of hypnotic trance is not a factor in determining the accuracy of the impressions. Even under a very light trance, you can get very vivid impressions if you are open-minded.

Your Mission in Life

There is nothing more fulfilling or powerful, for achieving your goals in life, than waking up each morning filled with a sense of purpose and mission.

If your life isn’t as passionate as you would have liked it to be, if you lack the zest and energy for living, it’s probably because of a lack of an underlying principle around which one’s life should be organized.

The process of discovering this underlying principle or mission may be the most powerful thing you’ll ever do for yourself, because it will give your life a direction, a purpose. It will provide you the clarity and focus, that could awaken the unbelievable forces hidden somewhere deep inside you. Because, once you are clear in what you want, you don’t have to waste time and energy, trying to take even the most minute decisions with anxiety and doubt.

In this chapter, we are going to discuss the concept of life mission, and help you find this underlying principle. We’re going through a step by step procedure, exploring your feelings and options, and by the end of this discussion, you should have a fairly solid tool you could immediately employ in your life, to give it a meaningful direction.

Your mission in life goes much beyond your work or career. Perhaps, you’ll discover that your mission has very little to do with just money making activities, and your job or career is just a support system for attaining your true higher purpose.

There are three steps to the process of discovering your life purpose:

1. Understanding the Principle of Choice.
2. Creating your Underlying Principle.
3. Align your life with the Underlying Principle.

At the completion of this process, you should have a powerful personal philosophy, and a step by step method for defining your life plan in writing.

Understanding the Principle of Choice

Norman Vincent Peale had this to say about the power of choice: "The greatest power we have, is the power of choice. It’s an actual fact, that if you’ve been groping under unhappiness, you can choose to be joyous, instead. And, by effort, lift yourself into joy. If you tend to be fearful, you can overcome that misery by choosing to have courage. The whole trend and the quality of anyone’s life is determined by the choices that are made."

Choosing is the most important activity of your mind, because by making a choice, you are proclaiming your desires to your subconscious mind. Once the subconscious gets to know your desires, it is going to do anything to manifest them in your life. The choices you make in your life become your goal. And, if you are sincere in pursuing them, there is no reason why you should not accomplish them.

Indecision, on the other hand, not only creates frustration and anxiety, but can also lead to confusing the subconscious mind about what you want.

But, it is important that the choices you make are made by you, in accordance with you true desires, purpose and aptitude. A lot of us let others make choices for us, or make our choices according to what we think is "correct," even if that meant that we go against our wishes. This is a dangerous trap, that a lot of us fall into. And, this is probably the most important reason why we struggle to find true purpose and true happiness in life. What’s right for someone else may not be right for you, and the way to know this is listening to what your heart says.

So, to begin with, make a list of things which interest you; things which you have always enjoyed, which come effortlessly to you, which make you feel better and fuller, which inspire you to surge ahead, no matter what obstacles you face. Do you like doing something creative, or something artistic? Do you enjoy nature, do you like the sea? Do you enjoy helping others? Do you get pleasure out of making a difference in other people’s life? Whatever it is that interests you, go ahead and list them in the space below:

• Things you love to do What is it that you love in this thing & Why?
• How could you do this for money, and make a living out of it?

Creating your Underlying Principle

The next step is to examine the list you just made and find out if there is any recurring theme. Maybe, it’s contribution that keeps coming up, or an effort to seek love, or an effort to give love, or helping your parents cope with old age. Whatever it is, try to identify the central theme of the things you love to do, and try to put it in a short and precise statement. This will be your Mission Statement. It may even be a quote from a famous person, or a philosophy that has influenced you. Of course, as you grow up, this statement could evolve, but its soul will remain the same. Now, write down your Mission Statement in the space below:

Align your life with the Underlying Principle

The final step in this journey is to map your path to your purpose. Make the little changes in your life-style, that would accommodate this principle in your life. Live this principle each and every day. It might take a few days, but you’ll certainly feel the difference in your enthusiasm for life. If you realize that you love being admist nature, plan out a holiday. You don’t have to do anything drastic to satisfy your mission. Maybe, an outing with your children could be enough to recoup your energy. On the other hand, you might even want to change your job, or start a new business, that is more in line with your mission. Remember "Do what you love, and money will follow."

Exercises - Relationships

Exercise One

Aim

The aim of this exercise is to develop a mechanism to ease tensions between you and your partner. In this exercise, you will, in consultation with your spouse or lover, develop a "Pattern Interrupt," which will be designed to ease out tensions between you and your partner, whenever such a situation arises.

Procedure

Discuss with your partner and find a gesture that could be made or a phrase that could be said when things get really heated up. Make sure that this is really bizarre and humorous, so that no matter how serious a confrontation becomes, it could ease out the tensions. For instance, you could decide on something like holding your nose and saying something funny. The point is to, for a moment, divert the attention of your partner away from the confrontation, and into something light and humorous. Use such pattern for a few times to reinforce it.

Exercise Two

Aim

This self hypnosis exercise is designed to assist you in attracting the right person to you.

Procedure

Allow fifteen to thirty minutes to do this exercise. You may put on some quite music in the background. Do this once a day for the next five days. Either:

1. Guide yourself through the exercise.
2. Record it and then use the recorded cassette.
3. Ask a friend with a good voice to record it.
4. Write to the institute for a copy of a similar tape. (In the meantime, use one of the above three options.) Remember to mention the unit and exercise number.

The "Attract Love" Programming

"Set yourself in the body position of your choice. Close your eyes, roll your eyeballs upwards and take three deep breaths, and begin to relax. Just focus on relaxing every muscle in your body from the top of your head to the tips of your toes. Just begin to relax. And begin to notice how very comfortable your body is beginning to feel. You are supported so you can just let go and relax. Now, for a moment notice your slow, calm, deep breathing. Inhale and exhale. Inhale and exhale. And, every time you exhale, you become even more relaxed and at ease.

To deepen your relaxation, count backwards from twenty to one, each time visualizing the number if desired.

"Twenty . . . . Nineteen . . . Eighteen . . . Seventeen . .

Sixteen . . . . Fifteen . . . . Fourteen . . . Thirteen . . .

Twelve . . . . Eleven . . . . Ten . . . . . . Nine . . . . .

Eight . . . . . Seven . . . . . Six . . . . . . Five . . . . .

Four . . . . . Three . . . . . Two . . . . . . One . . . . . "

[ Pause for a moment]

"Once again notice your slow and regular breathing. Inhale and exhale. Now in your mind, repeat after me the following words which will be imprinted into your subconscious and assist you in attracting the right person to you.

I am building into my reality the type of man/woman I desire.

[Insert "Relationship Desire" statement]

[Insert "Relationship Contribution" statement]

I know he/she wants me, and I want him/her. I have wonderful gifts to offer to him/her. I am honest, sincere, loving and kind. I have a strong will, a joyous heart, a healthy body and a vibrant mind to share with him/her. He/she offers me the same. It is mutual. I give and I receive. Divine intelligence knows where this man/woman is, and the deeper wisdom of my subconscious mind is now bringing both of us together, and we instantly recognize each other."

[Pause for a moment]

"Now, I will provide you with some very powerful suggestions, which will be accepted by your subconscious mind and acted upon. At this relaxed level, your subconscious is open and receptive to positive suggestions. So relax and allow these words to flow into your subconscious mind. They will stay there and work from there for you. (Each repeated 2 times)

You express yourself freely and you experience acceptance from the man/woman you desire.

You are very attractive to men/women.

You are creating the ideal relationship for yourself because you are willing to love and be loved.

All the qualities you possess are attractive to men/women you desire. Your inner strength and magnetism shine forth in all that you do sending out all the right vibrations to attract a satisfying relationship for you.

All that you desire and deserve, you can attain through the inner strength that is empowering you now.

It is your birth right to enjoy life completely and share all the joys life has to offer with someone you love and someone who loves you.

You radiate the positive energies to which men/women are attracted to.

You are perfect, your body is perfect, your mind is perfect.

You use mind reprogramming techniques daily.

These powerful affirmations have been communicated to every level of your body and mind. You are open to these communications, which you will accept and act upon. They are powerful and they help you enhance your energy and enthusiasm to unimaginable levels."

[Pause for a moment]

"Now, I am going to count from 1 to 3, and at the count of 3 you will open your eyes, feeling, light, refreshed, revitalized, energetic, wonderful, happy and cheerful, feeling better than before. Now, 1, coming out slowly. 2, yes, coming out now. 3, Open your eyes feeling light refreshed and revitalized, happy and cheerful, feeling much better than before."

Exercise Three

Aim

This self hypnosis exercise is designed to assist you in revitalizing your love life.

Procedure

Allow fifteen to thirty minutes to do this exercise. You may put on some quite music in the background. Do this once a day for the next five days. Either:

1. Guide yourself through the exercise.
2. Record it and then use the recorded cassette.
3. Ask a friend with a good voice to record it.
4. Write to the institute for a copy of a similar tape. (In the meantime, use one of the above three options.) Remember to mention the unit and exercise number.

The "Revitalize your Relationship" Programming

"Set yourself in the body position of your choice. Close your eyes, roll your eyeballs upwards and take three deep breaths, and begin to relax. Just focus on relaxing every muscle in your body from the top of your head to the tips of your toes. Just begin to relax. And begin to notice how very comfortable your body is beginning to feel. You are supported so you can just let go and relax. Now, for a moment notice your slow, calm, deep breathing. Inhale and exhale. Inhale and exhale. And, every time you exhale, you become even more relaxed and at ease.

To deepen your relaxation, count backwards from twenty to one, each time visualizing the number if desired.

"Twenty . . . . Nineteen . . . Eighteen . . . Seventeen . .

Sixteen . . . . Fifteen . . . . Fourteen . . . Thirteen . . .

Twelve . . . . Eleven . . . . Ten . . . . . . Nine . . . . .

Eight . . . . . Seven . . . . . Six . . . . . . Five . . . . .

Four . . . . . Three . . . . . Two . . . . . . One . . . . . "

[ Pause for a moment]

"Now, I will provide you with some very powerful suggestions, which will be accepted by your subconscious mind and acted upon. At this relaxed level, your subconscious is open and receptive to positive suggestions. So relax and allow these words to flow into your subconscious mind. They will stay there and work from there for you. (Each repeated 2 times)

You are ready to give and receive unconditional love with total commitment.

You are a unique and totally lovable person and deserve all the gifts of a wonderful, loving relationship.

You embrace the paradox of relationship - pain and joy. You learn from both of them.

Your partner supports your individuality and independence, and together you balance being together and being apart.

Relationships work when love and the willingness to grow are present. You create a loving, growing and totally successful relationship.

You express yourself freely and experience acceptance from your partner.

The struggles of life strengthen the basis of your relationship.

Your love is the source of your inspiration to succeed in life.

You respect your partners values and beliefs and receive the same.

You use mind reprogramming techniques daily.

These powerful affirmations have been communicated to every level of your body and mind. You are open to these communications, which you will accept and act upon. They are powerful and they help you enhance your energy and enthusiasm to unimaginable levels."

[Pause for a moment]

"Now, I am going to count from 1 to 3, and at the count of 3 you will open your eyes, feeling, light, refreshed, revitalized, energetic, wonderful, happy and cheerful, feeling better than before. Now, 1, coming out slowly. 2, yes, coming out now. 3, Open your eyes feeling light refreshed and revitalized, happy and cheerful, feeling much better than before."

Principles for Maintaining a Successful Relationship

Why is it that so many relationships, which start off with such energy and enthusiasm, seem to lose their glitter just a few weeks down the road. Studies have shown that there are five basic principles which govern the quality of a relationship in the long run:

Principle #1:

Knowledge of the other person’s preferences

How does your husband or wife like to be told that you love him or her? How would you like to be told that your lover or spouse loves you. Would you like to touched in a certain way, or would you like to be embraced in a certain way, or would you like love to be expressed in words, or would you like to be looked in the eyes in a certain way? Love is a very delicate affair, and the surest way of sabotaging your relationship is to be aloof of the others person’s preferences.

Over the months and years, most people realize, what is it that makes their lover express love. But, some don’t and this can be fatal for the relationship. If you think you haven’t yet discovered your partner’s preferences, this is the first thing you should do. Often called the "Love Strategy," you must make a conscious effort to discover it, and meet it on a consistent basis.

Principle #2:

Relationship is a place to give, not take

Often, people approach a relationship as a place to solve their problems. While a relationship could definitely solve problems, this approach tends to disempower both the people involved in it. If you have not been cuddled or pampered as a child, and use a relationship as a place to receive such treatment, you are disempowering yourself of your ability to take any initiative, because you are constantly looking for your partner to treat you in a certain way.

Instead, what one should do in such a case is, concentrate on giving something into the relationship. Such contribution of love and affection will automatically elicit the kind of treatment you desire.

Principle #3:

Learn to communicate your problems with your partner

Dr. Barbara DeAngelis, in her best selling book, "How to Make Love All the Time," identifies four stages in a relationship that can kill it. And, by identifying it, one can immediately intervene and eliminate the problems before they become unmanageably large.

Phase 1: Resistance

This is the first phase of challenges in a relationship. It occurs when you take exception of something your partner said or did which you didn’t like. Maybe, it was a joke which you didn’t find very tasteful, or a statement that offended you, or something else which you wished hadn’t happened. Of course, resistance is bound to happen in a relationship between two human beings, but the secret is to talk it over, and settle it before it reaches the second phase.

Phase 2: Resentment

Resistance, if not handled properly, can lead to resentment. Now, your irritation with your partner grows into anger, and a communication barrier is erected between you and him/her. In this phase, you begin to avoid your partner, and the intimacy that you both enjoyed is virtually over.

Phase 3: Rejection

If resistance is not eased, or if you and your partner don’t talk the matter over, you may move into the third phase: rejection. This is the beginning of the physical separation from your partner. Coupled with emotional separation, in this phase, you begin to find everything about your partner annoying and irritating.

Phase 4: Repression

This is the most dangerous phase of the demise of your relationship. In this phase, you stop communicating with your partner altogether. There is an emotional numbness between the two of you. Slowly, you just become a room-mate of your partner, not concerned of what he or she is doing or feeling.

So, what’s the way to avoid this dangerous trap? Dr. DeAngelis says, it’s simple: Talk. Talking one’s problems, one’s concerns and one’s likes and dislikes is the only way to ensure smooth sailing. Adequate and meaningful communication is an essential component of any relationship.

Principle #4:

Never threaten your relationship

A lot of couples have the habit of saying things like, "You do that, and I am leaving you." This can be disastrous, because, although most of the time such a statement is not supposed to be taken very seriously, but what if one day, your spouse said, "Go ahead and leave. I’ll do things my way." If such a case arises, one’s ego may often force him or her to follow up on their threat (of leaving), and that is the end of the relationship. See, the point is that no matter what situation arises, there is no justification for threatening your relationship if you want it to last a lifetime.

Principle #5:

Strive to constantly add glitter to your relationship

Just like any other emotion, a relationship also needs to be constantly propped up. You need to constantly excite your partner, and ignite his or her desire for you. One way to reinforce your feelings of connection and renew your feelings of intimacy and attraction, is to constantly ask questions that would make your partner express love; something like, "How did I get so lucky to have you in my life?" Try to surprise each other. Do outrageous things, like arranging an outing at a place where your partner would have never even imagined. Express love in an out-of-the-way manner, and have fun doing it.

Discovering your ideal soul mate

Everybody needs to love and be loved by someone. Any degree of success in life is worthless if one doesn’t have somebody to share it with. We were all created to love and be loved. The capability of giving and receiving unconditional love was imbued from birth, but somehow over the years, as we grew older, we became entangled in all sorts of emotional and spiritual complications, which might have made us feel as if we are incapable for this. It is now time to let go of the past, and all its burdens - free ourselves of the fear based emotions that tie us down.

In this chapter, we will discuss a step-by-step process for discovering and "creating" that someone special. The trouble is that most of us want to have somebody to love but we are not very clear in our intent. (Of course, this may not be necessary for people who already have their soul mate.)

First, and foremost, decide what is it that you want in a relationship. Be as specific as you can. In the space below, write down the physical, mental, spiritual, and other qualities you would like to have in your partner.

• Physical qualities you desire in your partner:
• Mental qualities you desire in your partner:
• Spiritual qualities you desire in your partner:
• Other qualities you desire in your partner:

Now, put these qualities in a single sentence. Make sure this sentence is short, concise and to the point. We will call it your "Relationship Desire Statement." An example of this statement could be: "The man/woman I now attract into my life for a husband/wife/lover is strong, loving, honest, faithful, sincere, happy and prosperous." No go ahead, and fill in the spaces:

The _________ (man/woman) I now attract into my life for a _____________

(husband/wife/lover) is
____________________________________________________

____________________________________________________

____________________________________________________

Apart from knowing what you want out of a relationship, you must also ascertain all the qualities you have which would contribute to the success of your relationship.

What you can contribute to a successful relationship:

Now, put the above also in the form of a brief statement. We will refer to this as our "Relationship Contribution Statement."

The ________ (man/woman) I now attract into my life finds love and happiness with me because I am

_________________________________________

We will use the Relationship Desire & Relationship Contribution statements in the "Attracting Love" self hypnosis exercise, which follow later."

Exercise - Money

Exercise One

Aim

To identify new vehicles for wealth creation.

Procedure

For each of the next 5 days, identify 3 new ideas for making money.

Exercise Two

Aim

Your aim in this exercise is to overcome the negative associations, you may have developed, to money and the process of making money. In this exercise, you will subconsciously reinforce the positive associations you had written down in Part B.

Procedure

Allow fifteen to thirty minutes to do this exercise. You may put on some quite music in the background. Do this once a day for the next five days. Either:

1. Guide yourself through the exercise.
2. Record it and then use the recorded cassette.
3. Ask a friend with a good voice to record it.

The "Associating Positive to Money" Programming

"Set yourself in the body position of your choice. Close your eyes, roll your eyeballs upwards and take three deep breaths, and begin to relax. Just focus on relaxing every muscle in your body from the top of your head to the tips of your toes. Just begin to relax. And begin to notice how very comfortable your body is beginning to feel. You are supported so you can just let go and relax. Now, for a moment notice your slow, calm, deep breathing. Inhale and exhale. Inhale and exhale. And, every time you exhale, you become even more relaxed and at ease.

To deepen your relaxation, count backwards from twenty to one, each time visualizing the number if desired.

"Twenty . . . . Nineteen . . . Eighteen . . . Seventeen . .

Sixteen . . . . Fifteen . . . . Fourteen . . . Thirteen . . .

Twelve . . . . Eleven . . . . Ten . . . . . . Nine . . . . .

Eight . . . . . Seven . . . . . Six . . . . . . Five . . . . .

Four . . . . . Three . . . . . Two . . . . . . One . . . . . "

[ Pause for a moment]

[Insert the Positive Associations to Money you had listed in Part B - Page 4 repeating each 3 times]

[Pause for a moment]

"Now, I am going to count from 1 to 3, and at the count of 3 you will open your eyes, feeling, light, refreshed, revitalized, energetic, wonderful, happy and cheerful, feeling better than before. Now, 1, coming out slowly. 2, yes, coming out now. 3, Open your eyes feeling light refreshed and revitalized, happy and cheerful, feeling much better than before."

Exercise Three

Aim

Your aim in this exercise is to associate massive pain to not following through on your financial plan, and associating massive pleasure to following through. Popularly known as the "Rocking Chair Test", in this exercise, you will be guided to a later stage of your life, sitting in your rocking chair, and looking back on your life. There will be two parts. First, you will imagine yourself as if you have not achieved your goals, and second, as if you have achieved them.

Procedure

Allow fifteen to thirty minutes to do this exercise. You may put on some quite music in the background. Do this once a day for the next five days. Either:

1. Guide yourself through the exercise.
2. Record it and then use the recorded cassette.
3. Ask a friend with a good voice to record it.
4. Write to the institute for a copy of a similar tape. (In the meantime, use one of the above three options.) Remember to mention the unit and exercise number.

The "Rocking Chair Test" Programming

"Set yourself in the body position of your choice. Close your eyes, roll your eyeballs upwards and take three deep breaths, and begin to relax. Just focus on relaxing every muscle in your body from the top of your head to the tips of your toes. Just begin to relax. And begin to notice how very comfortable your body is beginning to feel. You are supported so you can just let go and relax. Now, for a moment notice your slow, calm, deep breathing. Inhale and exhale. Inhale and exhale. And, every time you exhale, you become even more relaxed and at ease.

To deepen your relaxation, count backwards from twenty to one, each time visualizing the number if desired.

"Twenty . . . . Nineteen . . . Eighteen . . . Seventeen . .

Sixteen . . . . Fifteen . . . . Fourteen . . . Thirteen . . .

Twelve . . . . Eleven . . . . Ten . . . . . . Nine . . . . .

Eight . . . . . Seven . . . . . Six . . . . . . Five . . . . .

Four . . . . . Three . . . . . Two . . . . . . One . . . . . "

[ Pause for a moment]

Now, imagine yourself much older from now. You are sitting in your rocking chair, and reflecting back on your life. It’s been a long and eventful life, but you haven’t made full use of the opportunities you got. You will view these impressions as a spectator. See yourself, and your life. Are you happy with the way life has passed? Your financial goals have not been fulfilled. What does this cost you? What did you miss out on? How do you feel? Were you able to experience the real joy of abundance? See, feel, hear, touch. Engage all your senses. Stay with this feeling for a while. I’ll be back shortly.

[Pause for 30 seconds]

Now, change your perspective. See yourself having achieved all your financial goals. You have been able to live fully in the body, the mind and the spirit. You have been able to play your part as a father, a mother, a husband, or a wife with great abundance and passion. How do you now feel about your life? How much more joy is there in your life? How much more juice has there been in your life? See, feel, hear, touch. Engage all your senses. Stay with this feeling for a while. I’ll be back shortly.

[Pause for 1 minute]

"Now, I am going to count from 1 to 3, and at the count of 3 you will open your eyes, feeling, light, refreshed, revitalized, energetic, wonderful, happy and cheerful, feeling better than before. Now, 1, coming out slowly. 2, yes, coming out now. 3, Open your eyes feeling light refreshed and revitalized, happy and cheerful, feeling much better than before."

Exercise Four

Aim

This self hypnosis exercise is designed to assist you in attracting wealth.

Procedure

Allow fifteen to thirty minutes to do this exercise. You may put on some quite music in the background. Do this once a day for the next five days. Either:

1. Guide yourself through the exercise.
2. Record it and then use the recorded cassette.
3. Ask a friend with a good voice to record it.
4. Write to the institute for a copy of a similar tape. (In the meantime, use one of the above three options.) Remember to mention the unit and exercise number.

The "Attracting Wealth" Programming

"Set yourself in the body position of your choice. Close your eyes, roll your eyeballs upwards and take three deep breaths, and begin to relax. Just focus on relaxing every muscle in your body from the top of your head to the tips of your toes. Just begin to relax. And begin to notice how very comfortable your body is beginning to feel. You are supported so you can just let go and relax. Now, for a moment notice your slow, calm, deep breathing. Inhale and exhale. Inhale and exhale. And, every time you exhale, you become even more relaxed and at ease.

To deepen your relaxation, count backwards from twenty to one, each time visualizing the number if desired.

"Twenty . . . . Nineteen . . . Eighteen . . . Seventeen . .

Sixteen . . . . Fifteen . . . . Fourteen . . . Thirteen . . .

Twelve . . . . Eleven . . . . Ten . . . . . . Nine . . . . .

Eight . . . . . Seven . . . . . Six . . . . . . Five . . . . .

Four . . . . . Three . . . . . Two . . . . . . One . . . . . "

[ Pause for a moment]

"Once again notice your slow and regular breathing. Inhale and exhale. Now in your mind’s eye, I want to visualize your objective as already achieved. See yourself as a highly prosperous person, bubbling with abundance and satisfaction. Choose the setting you like. Choose the people you want to have around you. Make this real. Use all your senses. Do this now in your mind’s eye as I remain silent for a while."

[Pause for 1 minute]

"Now, I will provide you with some very powerful suggestions, which will be accepted by your subconscious mind and acted upon. At this relaxed level, your subconscious is open and receptive to positive suggestions. So relax and allow these words to flow into your subconscious mind. They will stay there and work from there for you. (Each repeated 2 times)

You are an incredible being with unlimited potential.

You are a financial genius.

You feel like a millionaire. You act like a millionaire.

You attract situations that bring you huge amounts of money.

You are a genius at creating, managing and sharing money.

You make decisions that benefit you financially.

You are financially independent and secure.

You invest and re-invest your money wisely.

You are wealthy.

You create wealth out of your immense power and ability.

You deserve to be wealthy.

You use mind reprogramming techniques daily.

These powerful affirmations have been communicated to every level of your body and mind. You are open to these communications, which you will accept and act upon. They are powerful and they help you enhance your energy and enthusiasm to unimaginable levels."

[Pause for a moment]

"Now, I am going to count from 1 to 3, and at the count of 3 you will open your eyes, feeling, light, refreshed, revitalized, energetic, wonderful, happy and cheerful, feeling better than before. Now, 1, coming out slowly. 2, yes, coming out now. 3, Open your eyes feeling light refreshed and revitalized, happy and cheerful, feeling much better than before."